Feeling the Love

Here I am, sat on my own with my little dog Hamilton. I’ve literally seen one person in a week since the terrible Christmas I had.You might ask yourself if I’m feeling depressed, upset, or broken. On the contrary I’m feeling loved and amazed by all the love from my friends and family.There’s a saying from The Wizard of Oz:“A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others.”And I really have felt the love.It’s amazing how many lovely friends I have. Some I haven’t seen for years. One friend I haven’t seen for over 30 years has kindly offered for me to go and stay with her in Jamaica how unbelievable is that? Another friend is away on holiday in Mexico. I haven’t seen her for about 15 years, yet she still calls me to see if I’m okay.The love and support I’ve had has been amazing.Then there’s my lovely TikTok family. I don’t like to call them followers, because the care and appreciation they show me is so unexpected. If you had told me before going on TikTok that I would meet such a wonderful community, I wouldn’t have believed it.

I’ve had friends checking up on me daily. I suppose people see through people they can smell bullshit a mile away. When I open my heart and you become my true friends, I believe people sense that. They know.I feel very loved.And for the first time in my life, even though I’m living on my own with no other humans, I can honestly say that for a very long time, I don’t feel alone.

I have been very lucky in my life to meet some amazing friends, and oh my God, am I thankful. Without their love and support, I couldn’t and probably wouldn’t have dealt with the breakup of my relationship.So although this has been a difficult and emotional time for me, all the lovely support I’ve had has made me feel very grateful .We should always treat people the way we would want to be treated. I’m a firm believer in that. We should always put the boot on the other foot and place ourselves in that person’s situation, because one day it could be us Let’s all be kind to one another, because really, there are a lot of lovely people out there.

So although last week I thought my world was crashing down, I’m very hopeful that I’m going to get over this now. This isn’t me being strong oh no it’s because of the love I’ve had from all my friends.

And with that being said, you don’t need to be a friend you’ve known for years. I’ve just moved to a village where no one really knows me, and even the lovely people in my village have been supportive.

I’m honestly honoured to know such lovely people. It just goes to show that the smallest acts of kindness can change your perspective on things and make you stronger.

So I’d like to end this with a big thank you to everyone. Please remember that a small act of kindness can change someone’s life for the better.

love Debbie xxxx

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Author: Debbie Whitman

About Me Hello, I’m Debbie — also known as Debbie Donut. I’m a content creator, a natural nurturer, and someone who believes deeply in kindness, even when life tests it. I’ve built my online presence around positivity, humour, and warmth, but like most people, there’s more to me than just smiles and laughter. I love all things a little bit witchy and wonderful — growing my own herbs, exploring alternative remedies, and finding calm in nature. Animals are a huge part of my life. I share my home with Hamilton, my beautiful rescue dog, Oreo — my son’s three-legged cat — and a fascinating aquarium that brings me peace. I also enjoy creating decoupage with oyster shells and selling them to raise money for the dog charity I rescued Hamilton from. This blog was created as a place to slow down and reflect. A space where I can share the quieter thoughts behind the laughter — especially around love, relationships, and the question of why the people we love most can sometimes hurt us the deepest. I’m not here to blame or dwell in sadness. I’m here to understand, to heal, and to learn how to keep a soft heart in a hard world. To explore how we can love deeply while also protecting ourselves. To grow, even when things are confusing or painful. If you’re someone who loves hard, feels deeply, and is learning how to put yourself first without losing your kindness — you’re very welcome here. You can also find me on TikTok as @debdonut1, where I share everyday positivity, humour, and real-life moments — because life is all of it, not just one side. Thank you for being here.

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